Let's Talk About Expectations...

This week we finally launched it... The secret that I've been biting my tongue about all summer... 2 Strangers and a Wedding!

I won't ramble on with the details here, but if you want to know them then our website comes in real handy. http://www.energy1015.com/.
To sum it up... Two complete strangers will be matched with the help of a panel of experts, and will finally meet face to face on their wedding day October 30th.

Say whaaaaaat!? Yeah, I know. We've heard it all this week from just about everyone with an opinion and it's been pretty fascinating to hear what folks have to say. The word "sacrilegious" has been tossed around a lot though... Hmm.

Like it or hate it, loads of people are all of a sudden talking about love. Love and all it's ups and downs, whether they've found it, are looking for it, believe in it or condemn it... Love is the universal connection between all living things and everyone has a story.

Here's the thing though... The difference between those with a positive and a negative outlook on the entire concept of love, I find, is expectation.

That statement is sooo going to be argued, but hear me out...

We ALL have expectations from a partner, but it's a matter of attachment to these expectations. If there's specific qualities you're looking for in a person, and it's the kind of stuff you absolutely neeeed in another, great! Make your list, put it out there to the powers that be and let things happen. Those are healthy expectations. They're the kind you deserve to have met, and the kind that will be met if you stick to your guns and have a little faith.

Then there's another kind of expectation... The kind that we allow to cloud our minds and take away focus from reality.
They're the expectations that we assume the other person is completely in tune with and will thus never disappoint. He WILL call you every time you get a spare 5 minutes at lunch. She WILL ditch her girlfriends to come over and play Xbox... Oh and she'll bring pizza.

Oh, but wait... Your five minutes go by without so much as a text message, and you feel forgotten. She goes dancing with the girls and you feel unappreciated. Who wouldn't really!? But it's so important to take a second here and really think about why we feel that way, and how much easier it can be if we detach ourselves from such expectations and realize something very important and often forgotten... We're not mind readers. If we were, then no one would ever be disappointed.

Chill out and communicate. You'll see how things can be different.

Love is an amazing, powerful thing. So what a shame it is to let it dissolve because we can't take a step back into reality and see things from a different point of view. After all, for every unspoken expectation we have from another, it's more than likely that they have a few from us as well. We're only human after all.

Love and be loved. What a concept... What a journey...

As for these two strangers, theirs is only about to begin. So whether you're a yay or a nay, why not stick around and see what happens?

There may be some magic.

Cheers and much love all!

Ian

"The highest thought is always that which contains joy. The clearest words are those words which contain truth. The grandest feeling is that which you call love."